Happy Anniversary -10 and counting!

Today is our 10th wedding anniversary.  I will be the first to say that it has been an awesome ride thus far.  Don't get me wrong...it hasn't all been peaches and cream but I wouldn't trade one second of my life with Terrance for anything in the world.  Looking back over the years, it's easy to see how much we've grown.  We not only have noticeable laugh lines and an expanding waist line as signs of maturity but our relationship has blossomed as well.

I will admit that this 10th year has been the hardest for us in terms of our relationship.  There slowly came a point when we stopped putting each other first and allowed our marriage to simmer on the back burner and the back burner is no place for a marriage to be.  We were taking care of business in every aspect of our life except for our marriage.  The needs of our kids, our jobs, our friends, our families were all met but at the sacrifice of one another.  Like all things that fester...it all came to a head one day and after a lot of brain busting the problem was in fact easy to fix.  Our marriage comes first after God.  Period. The end.  Everything else will fall into place.  Our new goal is to focus on meeting the needs of one another.  With the simple idea being that if both of our needs are being met then we can handle all of the other life obstacles that come our way and the best part of that is that we will handle them together.

There is a reason that love is one of the most important attributes of Christian living.  Without love it is impossible to please God.  Love is completely giving of yourself to benefit someone else without the thought of gaining something in return.  Love is powerful!

^{I Corinthians 13:4-8
4} Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.⁸ Love never fails.

Father of the Year

Just wanted the world (or at least the 16 or so folks who read my blog) know that despite the fact that he sometimes gets on my last nerve my hubs is a pretty awesome dad. He will take the boys any and everywhere on his own with no questions asked. Church (check) doctors office (check) birthday parties (check) movies (check) drag races (check) chuck e cheese (check) ER visit (check)! He has always been a hands on dad. He changed diapers, took over the 2am feedings, initiated potty training, and he even bathes, and puts the boys to bed with a bedtime story! Yep, he's pretty amazing. And yes ladies...he's all mine!

Well it's always good when someone other than your significant other recognizes your awesomeness so Terrance was proud when he received the Father of the Year Award from our church on Father's Day.


It is no secret that I am frequently absent from church due to my job and my extreme need for sleep, so I was not there to witness him receive this honor and I was pretty bummed but I let him know that he truly did deserve the award and so much more!

So if you see him around, give him a pat on the back and say "Congrats Father of The Year" just so we can see him blush! Wait, do black men blush?!

Congrats RMS

Just wanted to say congratulations to Reagan Middle School for becoming the first middle school in Grand Prairie ISD history to obtain the TEA Exemplary status!



The teachers and staff have worked hard for this achievement. I asked Terrance if this means that all teachers get a raise next year. He simply smirked and said .... "No, but we did get a t-shirt!"


Been there...done that...got the t-shirt!

Happy Anniversary

It's been 9 wonderful years but it feels like only months! I wouldn't change a thing. Ok, maybe I'd add a few million to our bank account ! I'm blessed to have you as my husband. You are a wonderful husband and father. I guess I'll keep you around for a while as long as you'll have me. Love you to the moon and back!


Year 1




Year 3



Year 5



Year 7



Year 9




~Shanita~

Surprise

This is what I came home to the other morning. I was so excited about jumping into bed after working 12 long hours on my feet!




I pull back the covers and find a kid hiding under them!

This is even more surprising because Terrance has a strict no co-bedding rule that forbids the boys from sleeping in our bed unless they are sick unto death! But when I'm not there I see the rules are meant to be broken!



Don't you just love seeing father and son decked out in their a-line T-shirts a.k.a. 'wife beaters' at bedtime. We rarely don pajamas in our house. I think the boys only own 1 pair that fits!

I will admit that finding Ian in our bed was nice. I got to do a little snuggling before he woke up (Ian rarely let's me snuggle with him) so it was worth the surprise!

~Shanita~

Why I Love This Man

This post was almost titled: Why I Need To Lose 20lbs. However, I decided to go with a more positive spin!

The other night Terrance whipped up his delicious peach cobbler for me (at 11:00 at night)! I'd been craving it for a week but I had a root canal last week and I wanted to give my mouth a chance to heal so I could enjoy every bite of this scrumptious cobbler!



He thought his crust was ugly... I say: Who Cares, it's all tastes the same going down!



I was even ok with the mess he was making because I knew it would be worth it in the end!



See, the crust looked just fine! And it tasted oh so good!

It doesn't get any better than peach cobbler with a dollop of vanilla ice cream to make you fall in love all over again!


~Shanita~

Happy Father's Day

I'd just like to wish a Happy Father's Day to my husband Terrance.  To say that he is a great father is an understatement.  In a time where most dad's take the back seat in raising their children, Terrance is definitely an exception to the rule.  He loves his boys and takes every opportunity to have teachable moments with them, from shopping at Home Depot to restoring his camaro 'Candy' to cleaning out the bathtub. I often get upset because Ian will say...."I wanna go with daddy, not stay here with mommy"  Umm...I thought one of the advantages of having boys is that they are supposed to love their mommies above anyone else! Anyway, Terrance is a great role model to our boys.  He doesn't live by the quote "do as I say and not as I do"  Instead he lives a life pleasing to God that in turn is worthy enough for his boys to emulate. I am so thankful and proud to have him as my baby daddy the father of my children.

Terrance, I just wanted to take this time to say Thank You from me and the boys and let you know that you are loved and appreciated.  Keep up the good work!

Oh yeah, I'd also like to send a special Happy Father's Day to my dad, to my Father-in-law and to my three brothers.  And to all of the other dads out there stepping up to the plate!

Terrance-ism

We have been inundated with laundry lately. It is seriously out of control. We have over running baskets of dirty clothes all over the house and I can't seem to stay on top of it all. And on the off chance that I do wash a load, it usually stays in a basket in the corner because I don't have the time or energy to fold and put the clothes away.




So in my despair I asked Terrance why our laundry is so outrageous and he said (with a straight face)..."because you don't wash the way you used to"

To this I said: "you know you said that out loud right"

And he said: "I'm just keepin' it real"

So I said: how hard is it for you to throw a load in the wash or fold a clean load. After all you're the reason it's so out of control in the first place since you go through 2-3 outfits a day by the time you've changed for practice, then class, then maybe an extra workout and not to mention a different one if you have church that evening let it go.

I'm learning to pick my battles!

~Shanita~