Working S.A.H.M.

I have a friend, that shall remain nameless, who is an awesome mom.  She has adapted to motherhood with grace and dignity.  She’s done it all right.  She’s a breastfeeding, non-cobedding, delayed vaccination giving, working mama. 
Well, this awesome friend/mom was almost placed in time out by me the other day for making this statement “I’m not sure stay at home moms should place their kids in Mother’s Day Out three days a week”  Okay, I’ll admit that I was lounging on my sofa catching up on my recorded DVR shows while munching on a homemade frito pie which I’m sure did sound a bit lazy but doggone it…I deserve it.
First things first.  I am not technically a stay at home mom or SAHM.  I work full-time.  I just do it on the weekends.  That being said, I feel like I am more than entitled to have a couple of days a week to myself just to breathe.  When else is there time to tackle my ever expanding list of things to do, buy groceries, do laundry, catch up on all of my adult television shows, run errands, attend appointments, or just plain relax? I’m sure my husband and the rest of the world appreciates the time I take to wax certain body parts (get your dirty mind out of the gutter, I’m talking about my eyebrows!) or get my hair done.
I feel like I am forever in mommy mode which I don’t think is good for anybody’s sanity.  I’m constantly refereeing disputes, cleaning fluids of all kinds, picking up toys, answering the same question 20 times over, listening to annoying cartoons, watching my boys play video games, filling sippy cups, keeping my kids alive (there was an incident the other day where my kids ended up on the roof…yes, the roof), pushing swings, planning meals, and teaching my 2yr old that slapping someone is not an appropriate way to handle our frustration.
Since I usually spend Monday and Friday sleeping either because I’ve just gotten off from work or I’m about to go into work, Wednesday is pretty much my only day to enjoy ME! And I really enjoy it.  I am not the least bit ashamed of paying someone to help me stay sane watch my boys for me to have a weekly mental health break.  In fact, I’m kind of proud of myself for realizing that I can’t do it all.  I vividly remember breaking down in tears in the break room at work because I was tired and stressed out from trying to work all night and take care of my son all day with no sleep all because I thought that I was the only person capable of taking good care of my kid. 
So Ashley wonderful friend of mine, of course a SAHM can take a little time for herself…every week!  Whatever it takes to make sure she is the best mom she can be when her crumb snatchers kids return home to her loving arms!


  1. I agree! Although I am thrilled to be a future SAHM in a few months, I am scared. It is going to be the hardest job I've ever had! I think everyone deserves a break some times...especially SAHMs!

  2. I thought the friend was suppose to remain nameless??

  3. LOL! I put a strikethrough... no one will be able to tell who my anonymouse friend is. Hahaha! (unless they click on the link :-)

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  5. A pastor's perspective: Isn't it amazing that we are wise enough to realize that as parents we should take time to renew our physical selves. Our claim is that once renewed it allows us to face the necessary chores of life with a much more positive attitude. If only we would learn to take time to renew our spiritual selves aswell. "Six days a week are set apart for your daily duities and regular work, but the seventh day is a day of rest dedicated to the LORD YOUR GOD". (NYT)

  6. You got me laughing so hard...love it! I agree, it is our time when we work the days others get to relax.


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